I have lived alone for almost a year now after D moved back to our parents and B changed schools. My life is barely about work, home and a few Amway classes that accompany me throughout the week. I am single and have no friends around here that I could ring up to hang out any moment and I am fine with it. At least that's what I think. because despite how lonely I may seem to people, I just got a lot to do. My mind got stuff to think about and I am constantly running out of time.
Honestly, I never really thought about it - about how I spend my time living alone until my sil asked me "how do I manage?". When she came over last Sat, I needed to leave at noon to attend few events. She's waiting for my brother (her husband) to finished work at 7pm and went out for a date after. And staying alone for couple of hours, makes her feel relentless. Living alone can indeed be an adjustment especially when transitioning from being around others regularly.
So again, I never really thought about how I lived alone, how I do things, how do I feel and how it impacts me overall but today I really want to deep dive into it. Make a reflection and see what I have improved and where can I be better at.
How I feel about living alone?
I am a social butterfly. Extroverted. I enjoy social interaction with people that vibing same frequency as me. I used my social battery most of the day, dealing with clients and colleagues in the office, so when I get back from work and having the entire space by my own -- I couldn't be more grateful. When I look back, I have always been like that. I always come back home lying on my bed, sometimes reading, and now with all apps available, I binge watch kDramas (which I need to reduce! red alert!). I enjoy solitude. Of course, they are times where I occasionally feel lonely but my parents and I biweekly visiting each other so, yeah.
What I have been doing living alone?
No routine. No rules. No guidelines. I am doing nothing and everything, however and whenever I feel like it. Living alone offers a lot of freedom and flexibility, which can be both a blessing and a challenge. I appreciate the ability to do things based on my mood and at my own pace, but I am aware that this can make it difficult to maintain consistency and achieve positive outcomes from my ritual habit.
What/How I want to improve?
Creating some structure or routines to my free-spirited approach without stifling it might help. It doesn't have to be a rigid schedule bit more like a loose framework to guide my days. For instance, setting aside specific times for certain activities or tasks while leaving room for spontaneity within those time frames might help. I need to find some sort of support system or accountability like sharing my goals or using apps to track progress or offer reminders to helps maintain consistency without sacrificing my flexibility.
So how about you? How do you spend your time living alone?
p/s: funny how my first post this year is on 1st Jan and I never update you ever since.